Date safely. Every time.
The most complete, practical dating safety guide on the internet—clear steps you can use before, during, and after a date.
Safety built into Fuchsia
Multiple layers of protection so you can focus on genuine connections
Taking things off-platform removes protections. If someone insists, that’s a red flag.
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Verified members
- KYC verification to reduce fake accounts.
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Encrypted by default
- Secure messages with abuse monitoring.
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Escrow protection
- Funds released only after both confirm.
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One-tap reporting
- Rapid response to violations.
Before, during, and after your date
Each phase requires different awareness and actions
Hygiene & Care Checklist
Practical, judgment-free steps to feel fresh, confident, and respectful—before and after your date.
Before you go
After you return
Medication & allergies
Carry essential meds (e.g., inhaler, EpiPen), know your allergies, and avoid foods/drinks that may trigger reactions.
Trust, not guesswork
How to Check ID (Safely & Respectfully)
Use platform verification first. If you still have doubts, you can verify identity in a polite, privacy-aware way.
Low-friction ID checks
Start with light, respectful verification steps before you ever need to see a formal ID.
Low-friction verifications
- • Do a brief in-app video call before meeting.
- • Ask for a live photo doing a specific gesture.
- • Cross-check name/pronouns they share in chat with profile details.
- • Confirm unique plan details in chat (date/time/place) as a micro-proof.
When to ask for formal ID
- • If they’ll enter a venue requiring age/ID anyway.
- • If their story constantly changes or photos are inconsistent.
- • If money or travel is involved and risk is high.
Be polite and explain why: “For both our safety, could we quickly confirm with ID at the venue entrance?”
How to check ID
Quick checks that respect their privacy while keeping you safe.
- • Compare face → photo (allow for hair, makeup, glasses).
- • Check name initial matches what they told you.
- • Glance at date of birth (don’t record; don’t photograph).
What NOT to do
Boundaries that protect both you and your date.
- • Don’t take pictures of their ID.
- • Don’t share ID info with others.
- • Don’t keep the ID or handle it extensively.
Respect & inclusion
ID checks should never be used to shame, out, or disrespect someone.
- • Use their name/pronouns courteously.
- • If details differ (e.g., legal name), do not out them.
- • If either person is uncomfortable, meet in a public venue that checks IDs routinely.
Personal Preparation Checklist
Digital Safety & Privacy
Reduce digital footprints and keep control of your information while you date.
- Good habits
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- • Keep chats in-app; avoid personal email early on.
- • Don’t share your home/work address or daily routine.
- • Disable geotags in photos; scrub EXIF if sharing pics.
- • Use unique passwords; enable 2FA on your accounts.
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- • Stop responding; take screenshots (timestamps).
- • Report and block in-app and on the platform.
- • Increase privacy settings; consider new handles.
- • If threats/escalation → contact authorities.
Substance & Venue Safety
Simple rules to maintain awareness and reduce risk in bars, clubs, homes, and rideshares.
- Drinks & food
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- • Watch drinks being made; don’t leave them unattended.
- • If drink tastes “off,” stop drinking and get help.
- • Pace yourself; hydrate; eat beforehand.
- Environment
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- • Prefer well-lit public places with staff/CCTV.
- • Know exits; sit where you can signal staff/friends.
- • Use code phrases with your safety buddy.
- Transport
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- • Order your own ride; verify car & driver name/plate.
- • Share live location with a trusted contact.
- • Sit in the back; ask driver to follow main roads.
In an emergency
Get help immediately (Austria & EU)
Whether you're in danger right now or processing something that happened, you're not alone. These numbers and resources are focused on Austria and can also help many EU-based users.
Immediate danger
Call emergency services first
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, contact emergency services before anything else.
Emergency numbers (Austria)
These numbers are free of charge and available 24/7:
- European emergency (all services): 112
- Police (Austria): 133
- Ambulance / medical emergency: 144
- Fire brigade: 122
- Mountain rescue: 140
If you cannot speak safely, check if the DEC112 emergency app is available on your device (silent / text emergency call option in Austria).
Domestic and sexual violence (Austria)
These services are confidential and free of charge:
- Frauenhelpline gegen Gewalt: 0800 222 555 (24/7)
- Vienna Women’s Emergency Hotline: 01 71 719
They can advise you on safety, legal steps, shelters (Frauenhäuser), and how to protect yourself and any children involved.
After an incident
First steps for safety and support
1. Get to safety
Go somewhere you feel safe — a friend, family member, or public place. If you are still in danger, call 112 or 133 (police) immediately.
2. Contact a specialist service
In Austria, Gewaltschutzzentren (Violence Protection Centres) and women’s shelters can support you with legal, practical, and emotional help. For EU users, look for national helplines and victim support organisations in your country, or call 116 006 where available.
3. Document what happened
Keep screenshots, messages, dates, times, locations, and any medical reports. This can help with police reports, court cases, or platform investigations later.
Helplines
Confidential support and advice
Frauenhelpline gegen Gewalt (Austria)
Nationwide 24/7 helpline for women affected by violence (domestic, sexual, stalking, and more).
Telefon: 0800 222 555
Rat auf Draht (Austria — youth)
Hotline and chat for children, teenagers, and young adults in Austria, including topics like violence and relationships.
Telefon: 147 (around the clock, free of charge)
Victim support (EU)
In many EU countries, victims of crime can call a free, confidential helpline using the harmonised number below.
Telefon: 116 006
Recovery and next steps
You are not responsible for someone else’s behaviour
4. Report to the platform
Use in-app reporting tools to report abusive users. They will not see who reported them. Clear, factual descriptions help Trust and Safety teams act faster.
5. Look after your mental and physical health
Consider speaking to a therapist, doctor, or sexual health clinic. In the EU, many cities offer low-cost or free counselling and STI testing services. What happened is never your fault.
Professional support — legal advice, counselling, medical care — can help you process, heal, and make informed decisions. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.